PARTS WORK
A modality based on the concept that humans consist of several parts/ aspects whom which we unconsciously alternate between. In other words, we’re all a bit schizophrenic -to some degree.
With parts work therapy our goal is to connect to and give these parts a voice. We seek to find resolution between inner parts that holds different perspectives and truths. These parts can come forward as strong protectors, people pleasers, small children, internalized parent figures etc.
Becoming aware of and working with these parts of self is a wonderful way of getting to know the different perspectives we have adapted and why. When we struggle with decision making, feel stuck relative to a situation or find ourselves in cycles of so-called “self sabotage” our parts are at work, arguing their case.
For example, one part of us (the one we’re identified with) might be absolutely convinced that it wants a romantic relationship. They do everything in their power to find their one true love. They have ALL the dating apps, they have read ALL the books about Mars and Venus and what women want and what scares men away and what the hell not. Their entire bathroom mirror wall is full of post-it affirmations and hopeful future manifestations.
On the other side of the fence, we have the opposite part. The part that thinks that getting into a relationship equals death. It will be the end of it all. No more freedom, no more fun, no more sense of self. A relationship would mean complete enmeshment and powerlessness, because to some degree, that’s how relationships felt like growing up.
Do you think this part will allow us to find “our soulmate”?
Probably not. Instead it will sabotage every possibility for a relationship to manifest. Not to be mean, but to protect us.
The problem is that this part is completely subconscious. We have no awareness of it even existing. Though, as we progress in our search for that loving relationship that never comes, we begin to see that there’s a conflict of interest within us that needs resolving.
This is why parts work is such a powerful tool when it comes to manifestation and resistance.
When all parts of us are on the same side regarding something we want, there’s no resistance there to work against it and so it will manifest with much greater ease.
